Feeling Myself
A night with the ladies —May 2011

After my wine bottle-breaking catastrophe in November 2010, for the first time in my relationship life, I was single for more than two months with no cares of finding a bae or being bunned up. I was focusing on me and what made me happy. Finally, I could spend more time with my girlfriends. I started writing poetry daily again. Believe it or not, there was time in my day to complete my school work — on time. I was no longer focused solely on being in a relationship with anyone except myself. Sure I was seeing someone here or there, but I was in no rush to go steady or fall in like or love. I was actually having fun. My suitors then were all merely good company and conversation—with no strings attached and no intimacy.

Deuce Deuce 22 Birthday in Morgantown, WV , white dress
Deuce-Deuce B-Day Celebration – – April 2011

So, fully embracing my single-ship for the first time, I threw myself a Deuce-Deuce Celebration for my twenty-second birthday. I rented a chic hotel room in, DIY’ed an all-white cupcake dress; then myself and 5 girlfriends painted Morgantown, West Virginia for a night, pole danced on street lamps, drank to our limits, and shopped till we dropped the next morning. After arriving back in Frostburg, Pearl and I stopped by the tattoo shop. Pearl got a piercing, and I got my tongue pierced—a splash in my bucket list.

Do I regret spending a thousand plus dollars of borrowed funds in one day? Do I regret turning up with no turndown button? Should I regret the birthday dance from the beautiful exotic dancer at the night club? NO! Never. For the first time, I was living. I was taking in the scenery, off-roadin’ without road maps . . . only surviving by the rules my mother gave me: Be careful, get your education, know your surroundings, always let someone know where you are going, travel in groups if possible, have fun and enjoy your life. Would I ever go to that extreme again? Well, I won’t say never, but I don’t feel I need to do that again. . . I did it once and that was plenty.

Until next time,

Peace & Always Love


Want to know how my loc journey manifested out of my time living the single life? Read Beginning My Loc Journey.

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12 thoughts on “So what? I’m single. Let’s try to max out this credit card in a day.

  1. I think we all have ventured on the wild side. I did have a truly DUMB few moments in undergrad that I am so glad I am still alive to tell about! They were fun I did it and I don’t regret them but like you said…No need to do it again necessarily and if I did there is definitely a safer way to do it, LOL. *thinking back on my wilder days and wondering now if I should PLAN one with the hubs* 😉

    1. Oh! You should definitely plan one with the hubby. Nowadays, Frank is my partner in crime when I want to live slightly on the wild side. It’s fun and it keeps our relationship exciting. ;-D

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