A lovelife spent scavenging for a disappearing man
At 10 years young my favorite book was Disappearing Acts by Terry McMillan
I truly believe the universe works in mysterious ways. While you are going about your merry way living through life’s ups and downs, and taking in the scenic views of life —the universe or the almighty hand is busy working behind the scenes arranging and rearranging the pieces of your present and future.
At 10 years young, while rummaging through a box of over 1000 books in my grandma’s attic, I came across Disappearing Acts by Terry McMillan. read the blurb, and asked my older cousin if I could borrow the book. She, being the responsible older cousin, made me ask my mom first. My Mother, being a free spirit and never one to shield myself or my siblings from real-life or knowledge of any sort gave me permission to read the book. Well my cousin never got her book back, and 16 years later it is still my favorite book/story—and its wealth is still being shared. Just the other day I let my cousin-in-law borrow it . . . she’s 21, not 10!
Disappearing Acts is filled with mature context, experiences, love and sexuality. For your average pre-tween this book was the holy grail of R-Rated content. Queen Mother Terry McMillan did an outstanding job of depicting a relationship built merely off of sexual chemistry and intimacy. The lovers, Zora and Franklin, have an instant connection mentally, and powerful sexual connection from Day One. They formed a best-friends with benefits kind of relationship, which inevitably lead to the beginning stages of love. However, as the story progress readers realize Zora has dreams, goals and ambitions that divide her and Franklin, because he lacks the ambition she possesses. Throwing a baby and a financial downfall in the midst of their drama proves volatile. The result Zora decides to re-pursue her dreams, and Franklin attempts to man up and get his life together. . .
The title of this post . . .aside from the obvious fact that my lovers name is Frank . . . comes from the energy and perseverance of Zora and Franklin’s relationship.
- Chemistry – At first sight there was a spark of attraction: an unexplainable affection between the two.
- Intimacy – They could be with each other all day, every day—playing Scrabble, out and about, talking about life, their goals and planning their futures.
- Sex- They had a phenomenal and thriving sex life. They craved each other intimately and physically. #TakeAway: It’s okay to desire to be with someone who stimulates you sexually — someone who will grow sexually with you.
- Goals, ambitions – Zora wanted to be a acclaimed singer and outlive her mother’s footsteps (creatorship). Franklin wanted to become a master carpenter and work for himself (entrepreneurship).
- Self love – Both had grow to hate their current existence or complacency in life in order to love themselves and pursue their goals determination. This required them to separate, something neither’s heart wanted..
- Self-Control – When the shit hit the fan Franklin snapped and ram-shacked Zora’s apartment in her absence, however, the one thing he helped her obtain, and the one thing she loved the most he left intact, without a scratch.
- Unconditional love – Despite each others necessary journey, shortcomings, miscommunications, misunderstandings and opposing view points, they never fell out of love.
After watching the movie with Sanaa Lathan as Zora Banks and Wesley Snipes as Franklin over the summer, I realized how much of my love life was plague by men who never rose above Franklin’s lesser qualities. I’m sure many can relate. . . However, by the end of the book and movie you are reintroduce to Franklin—with his 2 thriving children from his marriage that ended in divorce, and the Queen he fell in love with and their new son —a man who grew into himself. Found himself, claimed his purpose and change his life all in the name of love. I, like the majority of young women I’ve encountered, suffered from many of Zora’s lesser qualities. She fell into the role of being wifey and playing house with little regard for stability and her own progression. She falsely assumed she could juggle, life, love, career, passion, and eventually a baby without requiring the necessary support from Franklin. The latter resulted in the overexertion of herself mind and body, and her inability to focus on her goals and dreams. When she finally decides to she and her son are her number one priorities, Zora steps into her higher self and is fully able to shine.
After the cycle of unfortunate events, the book ends on a high note and a new game Scrabble.
Zora Banks [Sanaa Lathan] is a would-be singer who pays her bills working as a New York City high school music teacher. Franklin Swift [Wesley Snipes] is a financially troubled, recently divorced builder with two young children. The two meet when Zora moves from Brooklyn to Manhattan and finds Franklin working on her apartment building. Despite their very different personal lives and their difficult financial situations, the two soon fall in love and begin a steamy affair.
Peace & Always Love
♥ Egypt E.