A Blog is Like a Marriage
A blog is like a marriage. You can have a really bad relationship or a really good relationship with blogging. To be honest, mid-2018 I was not really sure if I was going to be able to return to blogging. Some part of me felt as though I had nothing left to blog about—I had nothing left to give. Yet, there is something invaluable about having someone who pours into you, encourages you, and will tell you when you are flat out being lazy or you just have not executed the plan that you have had in place for the past year, two or however long. Having that someone changes your perspective. For me, that someone is Frank—and so I am back. I am here.
I am here because I truly love the art of blogging. If you truly love the art of blogging as well, but you are on the fence about expressing the art in your life—I am here for you too. If you do not have a “Frank” in your ear encouraging you to live your passion, please allow me to be your cheerleader, your coach, and your #1 blogging confidant and fan.
My relationship with blogging has changed a lot—in one way, I feel as though I have plenty to write about. I also realized Frank was right. I have had plenty to write about according to 60-plus drafts I have written and simply dismissed the proofing process over the course of 365 days. Yes, I have had 365 days worth of just writing. I have notebooks full of content, all intended to end up in this blog space. Yet, standing on the borderline of depression and drowning in anxiety had me feeling as though nothing was going the way I wanted. Nothing I had to say was worth reading.
My blog is very much a part of my life. Not blogging felt like a betrayal of that part of my life. So for a blogger whose goal is to be as transparent as possible, feeling like you have nothing left to tell your world, feeling like you are drowning in anxiety is possibly the most important thing to lay down before your world of hearts.
The good news is, there comes a turning point. Somewhere along the cusp of licking your wounds and rising from your self-defeat, you realize all you have been going through is something that the people who have read your works for almost 5 years, or maybe even no years yet, should know. You realize you brought them along for every other journey. They have been there for the happy moments, the irate moments, and the blah blah moments. They even know about the I saw a million geese flying overhead moments. Conveniently, I just saw 7 geese flying overhead. You brought your people along for all of those experiences. Yet, when you are rising from your lowest point you feel as though you cannot express to them your transpiring. For some illogical reason, they could not, would not or should not meet you there.
That is why I say a blog is like a marriage. A marriage requires communication—very good communication, and very few edits. The truth is, a good marriage is raw. There are no cut cards. Everything is laid out on the table. Every hand is been dealt. When you do decide that you want to edit it is not for the sake of leaving something out. Editing is to say I am not being bitchy or an asshole. I am not going to be petty for petty’s sake. I will not just play tick for tack out of spite. Instead, I am seasoning my words with salt, as my Didd’a often says.
Maintaining a blog and maintaining a marriage, first and foremost, requires love—a selfless giving of one’s own experiences, thoughts, and windows for an all-encompassing good. Then there must come a sense of peace. Peace affirms whatever truth I speak through this blog, you—my readers will receive with and in love. Somewhere in the blog, you will find justice. Justice is giving yourself permission to say, “This is how exactly I feel, and I am not going to change the way I feel for anyone but myself.”
The most important, yet it is almost the smallest of all, is freedom. Once you manage love, peace, truth, and justice—freedom comes naturally. Your freedom to express yourself wholly in a marriage makes you free. Freedom makes you feel that you can accomplish anything. Your freedom reassures you that there is no sky to limit you. Freedom states that outer space is just another world to be explored.
I love my blog—it is a place of all those things. Yes, I love my blog, and just like my marriage, like Frank and I, it is always expanding. We are always growing. There is no world to be left untapped. Every year there is something new: trials, tribulations, obstacles, challenges, triumphs, rises, heights, and conquests. It is a beautiful thing—a blog is.
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