“I talk about love in an universal manner, and inside the universe there is individuality, particularity.”
You have to allow your fairy tale to just happen. Although your relationships may be influenced by those of others, yours should never be modeled after anyone’s or any social norm. I was once a relationship forcer. Like majority of love seekers, I was very naive believing my expectations would be met by every male I dated. In reality, my expectations and my standards were great for me, and I have never significantly lowered them for anyone. With that being said, I tried to force those great expectations and standards on guys who were not ready to meet them or willing to maintain them.