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You are Worth Your Self-worth

We  try to force change upon ourselves and others—but change is natural—and nothing natural can be forced. 

I spent a little over a year, maybe even two, fighting myself—or something of the sort. I was in a full-on battle. Literally, I had waged an almost unforgiving, horrendously relentless war against the woman I knew I was becoming—the woman I knew deep-down all of me desired to be. In my spirit rose a resentment toward this woman I had yet to formally meet. Forcibly I was on a mission to postpone her arrival. Some days it felt as if I wanted nothing more than to halt her coming all together. Ironically, I felt that I knew nothing of her. Sadly, as much as I innately desired to see her in all of her highly anticipated grandeur I could not stand feeling her emerging. I loathed watching her from half-shut eyes displacing the me I had grown to find so many comforts within. 

Eventually, I realized there was not much I could do to make myself feel happy and fulfilled until I just allowed myself to simply be—to commit, to leap, to freefall, to find a way to catch myself in mid-air—like a cat—and to land on my feet after all of my shifting, my changing. For my sanity’s sake, I had to make way for her arrival. I had to abandon my complacency.

The Losing Game

Self-worth, esteem, and confidence have been a struggle for me since I was young. Feeling like I did not fit in with my peers left me chasing a reality in which I was either doing too much or most often, not enough. Over time, I began to realize I was not alone in trying to shuffle my many pieces into their appropriate places. Like most wandering spirits—I was never broken or truly ever out of place. My focus was off. Trying to be who I thought I wanted to be, and not who came naturally left me exhausting my good energy. The she who came naturally, I had not planned for. Thus, I resented her. She seemed like too much work—too much to cultivate. She was like a garden left untended—overgrown with weeds.

Truth is, however, trying to be who did not come naturally was even more work—and very self-sabotaging. I found myself constantly drowning in a sea self-conjured anxieties. I found myself competing with a host of uncompetitive forces. The latter left me miserable. I lost my cares for all that I was good at while wallowing in that which could never properly serve me.

Focus on You

The journey back to self-worth is different for everyone, but the common theme is forcing ourselves into spaces too small or too big for us to properly fill. My space is my space. The size, shape, and purpose of your space are the same today as they were the day you were born. Imagine spending your entire life trying to be a superstar when you were always meant to be a highly revered elementary school teacher. You might find yourself depressed, anxious and ultimately unhappy. Do what feels natural. Focus on what comes naturally to you—do that—perfect that. Focus on who comes naturally to you—be that persona—perfect that persona. With the right focus, all else will begin to flow naturally.

 

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Create a Blog You Can Trust 

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Today we are living in the age of Aquarius—the age of technology and information. So much of that information is free and readily available with a simple internet search. People everywhere, myself included, are constantly seeking information of all sorts and kinds. Most importantly we are in search of information we can trust. We crave information that feeds our souls, just as much as it enlightens our perspectives. 

If you ever meet my mother-in-law know she is one of the sweetest, most conservative and studious people you will ever meet. However, she has a side few people ever get to witness—her thug-life side. Que Tupac. We will call that her I am very kind and conservative, but I will not take s*** from anyone—know these hands came registered side. Some years ago she inquired about how to start a lifestyle blog to share her experiences and perspective. Well, her inquiry caught me off-guard. I am a pretty consistent blogger and have been for over 5 years. Yet, I never looked at myself as someone who other people would come to seeking blogging advice. Plus, my mother-in-law is a highly informed woman. When she asked me about all of the ins and outs about blogging it took me by surprise—I figured she would have just Googled a how-to already. Right?   

Trustworthy Information

While taking time off to actually work on self and my craft I received even more questions about blogging. Close relatives, friends and even new acquaintances were inquiring how they could start blogs. They actually wanted to sit down with me and hash out all of their questions, hesitations and game plans. I realized my view of myself as a decently seasoned blogger and the view I held about our easy access to how-to’s of all sorts was very distorted.  It had never dawned on me that while Google is a very good source of information, Google can also not be as trustworthy as someone who you actually know, someone who is actually right there in front of you, someone tangible, someone you can reach out and touch.  

So, I realized oftentimes we do not simply need the how-to that we receive from a quick-fix internet search. In reality, search engines regularly serve as replacements for readily-available people to call on when we are in need of trustworthy information. Nevertheless, we still desire to have the how-to that someone we know, respect and actually trust can provide.

The Art of Giving Back

I remember when I started blogging I did not know anyone who blogged. I had no one to introduce me to the best tactics, best practices, or art of blogging. At the time I only had a story I desired to tell—so I danced, fell and loved through the journey. Thus, I am honored to be even writing this series of posts. People still inquired of me how to start a blog. How to go about being consistent? Hoto find the right things to write about? Can people really make money online blogging? I accept now, I do have answers. I have my journey, I know my stumbles and good strides—and so here we are.

My 2019 goal is to share my blogging experience and knowledge of the science behind what makes a successful blog.


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2018 Manifest

 

2018 the Year of Manifest

Each year we each embark on is always a year or something…either you fill in the blank, or you don’t, eh. Truth is often we do not fill in the blank, and we end our year with little to show because we neglected to establish a clear vision of all that we desired to see come to fruition. How much we neglected our past year will reveal its no or low hanging fruit come the dawn of the new year—our current year. Let this be the year you move and maneuver in such a way that you blink once and 2019 slows down to roll out a red carpet embroidered in golds and lined with silvers for You.

All that you do and neglect to do will matter, yet, not all that is done will transmute to matter, and still, nothing is ever truly wasted.

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Loveology 101 — Step V: Follow the yellow brick road

Loveology 101 — Step V: Follow the yellow brick road

You carved the path, cartogaphed the map, laid out the blueprint, now you follow it!

Too often we find ourselves trodding along our little path in life, and all has been well—but then something happens, tables turn, and you find yourself having one of those good `ole days or months plagued with a horrible array of WTF moments. When these days come we often forget that we know exactly where we desire to end up, and instead of utilizing our prepared map, we settle for remaining stagnant in those moments—sulking in our sorrows.

Follow the route you charted for yourself. You laid out a game plan of how you wanted to approach your journey—the steps you would take, the resources you will use, the relationships and networks you will nurture. When life knocks you off track, pick up your lessons and experiences, find your way back onto your path, and get back to your blueprint.

We say actions like the latter are easier said than done, but tell me truthfully…which is easier, getting knocked off your path, remaining stagnant with no forward progression and enduring a constant cycle of routinely purposeless and lackluster living …or… rising up, brushing off the dirt from the fall, gathering your experiences and lessons learned and deciding to venture back into the brilliant unknown toward a destiny you wrote for yourself.

Two juxtaposed options, requiring two contrasting actions, with two drastically different outcomes—and one YOU to decide how you’re gonna act…helpless or powerful.

For me, rising up despite all adversity and misfortunes is the only way to truly live. Sure you can make the decision to wallow in your misery and manage to survive until death bids you to join Him. Nevertheless, choosing this option will prove itself to be an oh so much more painful and daunting task. As a result, you’ll be in a constant attempt to convince your higher self that it is just as comfortable as your lower self or fleshly self with merely existing and being acted upon as opposed to being an active participant in the manifestation of your own destiny.

You will never convince your higher being that you are happy not fulfilling your purpose—so, follow your crafty map my Love! Walk your walk with love, and step into your light with confidence and sure faith.


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Loveology 101 —Step IV: War ready 24/7, 365 and leaping

With a clear mind, you can begin gathering your tools, supplies, and courage to start out on your conquest of love, life, and wealth.

Having an unveiled mind allows you to see things more clearly and more so as they are. You are able to plan most efficiently for that which is in the near future and also for those obstacles and opportunities that you know may follow or hope to follow as a result of your diligence and intelligent work ethic.

Clearing your mind, and having a flexible and comprehensive plan provides you not only with direction but with the courage to leap far beyond any boundaries you assume existed. When you tune your focus to your desires, your resources and the blueprint you have reconstructed you are allowing yourself the opportunity to harness the confidence needed for full and unadulterated execution regardless of any circumstances you find yourself surrounded by.


Loveology 101 — Step III: Toxic Waste Disposal Free With Basic Commitment…

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Loveology 101 — Step III: Toxic Waste Disposal Free With Basic Commitment

Loveology 101 — Step III: Toxic Waste Disposal Free With Basic Commitment…

You must anchor your own ship—and if it floats from its mooring that is your own fault.

You must commit to refining your clarity and reaffirming your focus. If your mind is clouded with toxic or negative thoughts about your preconceived beliefs that whatever you are trying to accomplish is not possible for any reason or that you are not worthy of realizing that which you seek then you have already begun sabotaging your own progression.

We are all only as power as we individually know ourselves to be. When you are constantly worrying about what to do next you become too occupied to see all that you have accomplished or could accomplish with projects you already have started, or resources you have thus far acquired.

Clarity of purpose and direction begins with you declaring you can achieve that which you sat your mind, heart, and actions toward. Clarity of mind begins with you accepting that hard times will come and will create earthquakes, whirlwinds, hurricanes, tornados, floods and straight hell in your life. Clarity of mind begins when you say “I am content with the unfortunate that will come in the midst of your journey to gain all that my heart desires.” Clarity of mind begins when you decide to put all of your heart, your resources few or many—including your time, your hard work, efforts and determination into manifesting and being and/or achieving all that you know you were created and birth to be.

No half stepping my Loves! True strength derives from perseverance and endurance.


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Committing to climb will always be harder than the climb.


 

 


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Loveology 101 — Before you take the plunge...

Loveology 101 — Before you take the plunge…

The Great Wind is invisible, but still tangible we know because it can be felt. So do let your love be like a breath of wind.

Love is a complex study. In the English language L-O-V-E is pretty much the only word we have that means…well, LOVE. This to me is a travesty, seeing that there are plenty of words that resonate about as high as love or vibe with the purpose of LOVE. However, there is also plenty of love’ish to go around, but we just have to know how to harness its true powers.

See, love is about intent. To be quite frank, love is no different than anything else we do, say, or are…all that exists for us Human Beings to manipulate hangs in the ever-swaying balance of our intents. I could tell you “I love you unconditionally” and still stab you in the back because I had an ulterior motive. This is why, understanding that LOVE is more than being able to spew out someone’s generic definitions and meanings of words and phrases—love is physical, mental, spiritual and soulful—love is spoken and unspoken, visible and invisible, tangible and intangible.

Thus, you see LOVE is a complex binary of ever-shifting equations, love is physics, love is anatomy, love is social, love is historical, love is present, love is forever futuristic, love is everlasting, love is never failing…and love can be dangerous, just as it can be safe. Love can be many things; thus, you need always be mindful of your intentions—what is it that you wish to manifest with love? a new career, the conception of your first child, a wealthier healthier lifestyle, financial freedom, your soulmate, your twin flame, forgiveness, a new book maybe, a new journey, some good `ole healing, or possibly understanding, peace, opportunities, or maybe global change…?

Whatever it is that you desire to manifest, scaled to the highest scoop of your vision, your dream—simplify that vision first down to you. YOU FIRST! the official Loveology with Professor E² motto ♥!^_^!♥ Yeh, I officially have no chill button to be pushed this year. Anyhow, so say you want peace on Earth? Well, make the first step of your journey to peace on Earthacquiring peace for YOU FIRST! And no my Love, this is not a selfish act with no altruistic end—on the contrary, this method is rather strategic and tried and true.

Be at Biwaha— at Peace, my Loves!

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Loveology 101—I wasn't Prepared for Love

Ironic really, a Loveologist not prepared for love. Seems a bit of a mockery wouldn’t you agree?

Well, that was me about a month ago. Frank and I had ventured to D.C. for an art workshop. The workshop focused on the arming of local artists with the fundamental tools and efficiencies needed to become economically stable while being politically effective, and of course, creatively free. Well, none of this translated directly into Loveology, but upon our arrival, we were entreated to introduce ourselves—you know…who we are, what we do artistically and professionally, why we signed up, and little whatnots like those.

Here’s where I interrupt myself to say I did not sign up for the workshop…Frank did—I tagged along as Wifey. Thus, my introduction to Egypt was sum’slight. I briefly acknowledged the latter and declared I was a Loveologist by trade, a poet by passion, and a publisher by profession—a curator of great people and their great works. That was it, my introduction was over, and soon we all got down to the reason the workshop was created.

However, my one and only spill of encouragement was given to Queen wit’da Funky-Funky Earrings, who was struggling with how to be authentic with her craft in an ever-trending commercial world and still be successful—for the most part, I sat quietly taking in the vibrations and thoughts. Two hours later the class ended.

Along the way toward the door, love was being shared, lots of hugs and “Nice to meet you’s.” As I was getting ready greeting another Queen, with a massive afro of beautiful shiny curls, was standing near the exit. Her eyes lit up like fireflies on a starless night upon seeing me. Pause: by this time I was ready to get in the car for the 45-minute ride home and climb into bed. It was a weeknight and at dawn, we’d begin a new grind day. So, my mind was really one one track—ready to wrap up the night. Nevertheless, the vibrations of Queen Fro were intoxicating and before I could manage “I’m in love with your hair Queen,” she says “Loveologist? …that sounds so nice, please, I want to know more.” My heart stopped momentarily . . .

I’m pretty sure my face looked something like a woman who forgot to turn the oven off before leaving home and only remembered as she picked up the can of cooking spray next to the baking sheets. “Oh, a Loveologist, I study of love and how it works, about how we can harness it…”—I smiled, saying something of the sort, probably nothing of the sort…eh, wishful thinking. I was stomped. After writing tons of blurbs and posts surrounding the subject and even more—almost a complete book on the qualifiable and quantifiable science of Loveology by way of the study of L-O-V-E in its many translations…I could not command my tongue in such a way which who capture all that was Loveology.

Gratefully, Frank is my better half, and he’s also conveniently my number one fan, and well—Loveology brain dump; and boy oh boy, did he slide in with the save. “She being modest,” he said. “She’s working on a book now—there’s a lot of scientific facts and research behind it, mind, body, and spirit…” Frank continued. At this Queen Fro was even more enamored I suppose because although I confessed I did not have any sort of business card or brochure on hand she insisted I put LoveTrips™ into her phone and we exchanged hugs. I thanked her for stopping me, bid her a goodnight, and Frank and I left.

I  learned a wee bit about myself, my Loveology practice and purpose in that tiny instant. See, studying Loveology nonstop for two years and working with only familiar clients, family, friends or those who have mentored and taught me was only one horse to break. Having random strangers inquire based on a fifteen-second introduction you gave and maybe a vibe or two emitted is a horse of an entirely different breed.

From that experience I learned:

  1. I had become too get accustomed to spitting Loveology in “safe”, “controlled”, “I’m acquainted with my mentees” environments.
  2. Practice makes perfect.
  3. I need to get out and engage with new people face-to-face more often—introvert malfunction pending …
  4. I can be an enormous introvert when it comes time to put my learnings and acquiring out for all eyes to see—especially, in person.
  5. Your purpose will seek you out when you least expect it—you will be tested to see if you’re really about the life you are trying to live.
  6. Whether you are living out your purpose or a facade of one placed upon you, eyes are always watching you, and ears are always l listening to you—bruh, life with purpose?…there will be no chill.
  7. Loveology has no zip code, it only requires a heartbeat.
  8. I need business cards. Yup.

Maiiandostéka ☺

—♥Egypt


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